Anger is an Energy

Anger is an Energy, John Lydon’s autobiography I haven’t read the book yet but I think the title makes an important point; anger is an energy. We tend to give anger a bad press, we put it in a rather … Read More

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Some Moods Are Difficult to Think About

Some moods are not only difficult and unpleasant things to experience, they are also very hard to think about. Certain moods, while powerful and disabling, often cut us off from company because it feels hard if not impossible to find … Read More

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A Critical Internal World?

If your internal world default is set to critical rather than tolerant, then challenges and achievements quickly become reasons to be self-critical rather than being things to be enjoyed. Your life may be full of achievements but you are just … Read More

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A Death Cannot Be Told as a Single Story

A death cannot be told as a single story, everyone involved loses someone in a different way. These losses cannot be shared, instead the bereaved find themselves adrift upon different currents. “One of the consequences of my bereavement was that … Read More

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Regarding the Ghosts of Christmas Past

Our moods are like psychic staging posts, we are drawn back to them. They are the points where our lives took particular turns. They are our personal truths, the events that shaped us, the memories and feelings that we return … Read More

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Keeping Your Feelings to Yourself

Feeling you have to keep your true feelings to yourself, when you are in the company of others, can be exhausting, depressing and dispiriting. With family it can feel like there is no possibility of speaking your mind openly, that … Read More

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Boundaries in Counselling

Why are boundaries in counselling important? One of the key values of the psychodynamic approach is the clear focus on the importance of boundaries in counselling. ┬áIt may not be necessary to say too much about the importance of boundaries … Read More

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Work and the Internal World

Ordinarily, the child’s developing internal world and sense of himself should be protected, encouraged and nurtured by his primary caretakers. When this does not happen, or when the primary caretakers are infact provocative, attacking and aggressive towards the child, then … Read More

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Getting Something off Your Chest

To speak and to feel that you have been heard, listened to without the sense of a judgement coming back. To feel that you have been able to puncture your isolation and tell another person how you feel. To feel … Read More

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What Can Be Done in Psychotherapy?

By way of analogy, imagine the noise if an orchestra played without first tuning up. Discordant results would follow. But if the musicians could recognise the problem, stop playing and tune up before continuing, then the intended melodies and harmonies … Read More

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When Our Moods Are Disturbed

Our moods may be disturbed by chance, by the sudden changing circumstances of external events. The ordinary human events, births, deaths, illnesses, divorces, redundancies, all of these things take time to adapt to. But the harder problem can be when … Read More

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