Could these symptoms refer to you? Do you: struggle to recover from early or childhood traumas and injuries? feel your old wounds will not heal? fail to take care of your own needs? lack self control? have an enduring sense … Read More
Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes Carl Jung Am I having a mid life crisis? Mid life crisis tend to occur any time between the ages of 35 – 60. If you: feel emotionally flat, low and … Read More
What do we mean by an internal working model? In this blog I write about psychoanalysis and psychodynamic counselling and why it is such a useful therapeutic model. Here I am looking in particular at John Bowlby’s (1907-90) internal working … Read More
Worry and anticipation hang in the air, the fear of the unknown – you know a change has to be faced but you don’t know how to face it. You don’t have to face it alone. We tend to live … Read More
What is Boarding School Syndrome? Boarding School Syndrome describes disorganised patterns of emotional attachment that are (for some people), a consequence of the disruption of being sent away to boarding school. Left unchecked emotional life will suffer, relationships break down, … Read More
Understanding emotional dysregulation It can be extremely difficult to understand issues around emotional instability or ‘affective dysregulation’ and it is often very draining for the individual concerned. In some cases this can fit with a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder … Read More
What is the psychodynamic approach? Psychodynamic psychotherapy and counselling are modern names for therapy that developed from psychoanalysis and Jungian analysis. These are therapies with more than 100 years of research and development behind them. They are often caricatured as … Read More
What is agitated depression? Agitated depression is a type of depression that involves symptoms like restlessness and anger. People who experience this type of depression usually don’t feel lethargic or slowed-down. Agitated depression used to be called “melancholia agitata.” It’s now known as “mixed … Read More
What is anxiety neurosis? Anxiety neurosis can take many forms. It might make you feel worried, nervous, fearful and panicky. You might develop physical symptoms such as raised heart rate and headaches. You might experience problems with sleep, or problems … Read More
What is living with depression like? The NHS describe living with depression like this, “the symptoms of depression can be complex and vary widely between people. But as a general rule, if you’re depressed, you feel sad, hopeless and lose interest in things … Read More
Contacting A Counsellor It can feel like a big step to contact a counsellor and arrange a first counselling session. You may have thought about doing so for a long time but felt put off, and lacked the confidence to … Read More
Bereavement counselling in High Wycombe I think that to grieve the loss of a loved one you have to find a way to access and speak about what you loved, what you miss and what you have lost. In my … Read More
It is worth remembering that our minds have limited capacity to deal with problems. Big problems take up a lot of bandwidth. So areas of our minds that should be available for thinking, concentrating, and delivering performance at home and … Read More