Psychotherapy Blog

“I used to say to myself that a drink would settle my anxiety and help me relax, would settle my nerves.  Maybe it used to.  But in the long run it just made me more anxious.”  Anonymous It is a … Read More

What is disorganised attachment? At the heart of someone who suffers from disorganised attachment is unacknowledged trauma and traumatic experience.  There has never been a chance for the trauma to be processed, so it has remained within the person, continually … Read More

Love is blind, the decisions we make Perhaps you are someone who has made reckless decisions in the name of love.  Perhaps you walked out on a long marriage having fallen for someone out of the blue.  You wouldn’t have imagined … Read More

Is a Cognitive Approach enough? Cognitive approaches to psychotherapy get a great deal of attention.  Are they right for you? You want to change your life and stop repeating the same mistakes and problems.  You want to stop having things … Read More

I feel I want to run away I want to get away I want to fly away – Lenny Kravitz There are certain threats that it is better to avoid than to engage with.  Faced with danger it is often … Read More

Dissociation, what does it feel like? what does it mean? Dissociation refers to a separation or division that occurs in our experience of consciousness and on-going reality.  Dissociation refers to the sense of having moved from one state of awareness … Read More

Living with a fear of rejection A fear of rejection, be it to do with relationships or careers can hold us back. Rejection leaves us vulnerable and insecure.  Fitting in and being part of the group is what has enabled us … Read More

What does labile mood mean? Labile mood is a medical, psychological and psychiatric term. It is used to describe people who experience irregular emotional responses. Labile mood is associated with severe mood swings and with intense emotional reactions.  Often the … Read More

Why do I feel like a failure? You can feel like a failure for all kinds of reasons: in terms of relationships in relation to an event in terms of career in terms of an ambition that can’t be achieved … Read More

When we speak of feeling tired of being alone, what are we describing? How do you think about and understand your aloneness?  Is it something you have started to feel because of a change in circumstances? Is it an old … Read More

Integrative counselling – developing counselling for you Integrative counselling is counselling that is NOT based upon one particular model (psychodynamic, Jungian, CBT, humanistic, existential, gestalt) instead your counsellor is able to draw upon different models to think and work to … Read More

Systemic therapy – we are all part of different social systems Systemic therapy is interested in the way you as an individual relate to, and are in relationship with other people. It does not view you as someone in isolation … Read More

How do you recognise that you may have an addiction? Alcohol, drug, food, gambling, sex, or porn addiction problem? We might assume that it would be obvious and easy to spot, but it isn’t. With addictions, people ‘use’ drink, or … Read More