Do you know what your conditions of worth are? Conditions of worth are the moral and behavioural codes that you live by. Often we are not entirely clear about what our conditions of worth are. Are you attached to conditions … Read More
We don’t tend to talk about nerves so much these days. Now we talk more of stress, anxiety and of problems with our brain chemistry and neurotransmitters, we talk of mental illness and mental health. But, I think we retain … Read More
Unrequited love, a one-sided affair Unrequited love, also referred to as one-sided love, is when one person loves, and the other person is unaware of it. Unrequited love is where the person who loves suffers the pain of not having … Read More
Abandonment issues and relationships Abandoned, lost property, All of the lost unclaimed things. Do you fear that you might be discarded, lost and left behind? Abandoned children and animals are very vulnerable. Abandonment threatens our security. As adults we may … Read More
What is Psychodynamic Counselling? Psychodynamic counselling considers the mind or psyche as dynamic, one force working upon another which in turn produces different forces. These psychological dynamics shape our thoughts, our views about the world, which in turn shape the … Read More
Patient confidentiality is a fundamental part of psychotherapy and counselling When you go to psychotherapy or counselling you need to have the peace of mind that what you say in your sessions remains private. What you say here stays here, … Read More
“I used to say to myself that a drink would settle my anxiety and help me relax, would settle my nerves. Maybe it used to. But in the long run it just made me more anxious.” Anonymous It is a … Read More
What is disorganised attachment? At the heart of someone who suffers from disorganised attachment is unacknowledged trauma and traumatic experience. There has never been a chance for the trauma to be processed, so it has remained within the person, continually … Read More
Love is blind, the decisions we make Perhaps you are someone who has made reckless decisions in the name of love. Perhaps you walked out on a long marriage having fallen for someone out of the blue. You wouldn’t have imagined … Read More
Is a Cognitive Approach enough? Cognitive approaches to psychotherapy get a great deal of attention. Are they right for you? You want to change your life and stop repeating the same mistakes and problems. You want to stop having things … Read More
I feel I want to run away I want to get away I want to fly away – Lenny Kravitz There are certain threats that it is better to avoid than to engage with. Faced with danger it is often … Read More
Dissociation, what does it feel like? what does it mean? Dissociation refers to a separation or division that occurs in our experience of consciousness and on-going reality. Dissociation refers to the sense of having moved from one state of awareness … Read More
Living with a fear of rejection A fear of rejection, be it to do with relationships or careers can hold us back. Rejection leaves us vulnerable and insecure. Fitting in and being part of the group is what has enabled us … Read More