I feel like a failure

Feeling like a Failure I went through a phase where nothing I did would go right. It started off with problems at work. Someone joined our team and became very critical of me. Whenever I suggested anything she would be … Read more

How to stop catastrophising

Do you catastrophise? Do you find you quickly go to a negative view of how things will turn out? Do you quickly imagine catastrophes happening? How do you find a way to keep perspective? When we talk about catastrophising we … Read more

Internal Working Model

What do we mean by an internal working model? In this blog I write about psychoanalysis and psychodynamic counselling and why it is such a useful therapeutic model.  Here I am looking in particular at John Bowlby’s (1907-90) internal working … Read more

Crying For No Reason

Do you find yourself crying for no reason? Is there anything wrong with crying? Is crying for no reason a sign of clinical depression? Is it a sign of anxiety disorder? Or are you crying about a deeply sad, perhaps … Read more

Nervous breakdown

We don’t tend to talk about nerves so much these days.  Now we talk more of stress, anxiety and of problems with our brain chemistry and neurotransmitters, we talk of mental illness and mental health.  But, I think we retain … Read more

Patient Confidentiality

Patient confidentiality is a fundamental part of psychotherapy and counselling When you go to psychotherapy or counselling you need to have the peace of mind that what you say in your sessions remains private.  What you say here stays here, … Read more

Love is blind

Love is blind, the decisions we make Perhaps you are someone who has made reckless decisions in the name of love.  Perhaps you walked out on a long marriage having fallen for someone out of the blue.  You wouldn’t have imagined … Read more

Is A Cognitive Approach Enough?

Is a Cognitive Approach enough? Cognitive approaches to psychotherapy get a great deal of attention.  Are they right for you? You want to change your life and stop repeating the same mistakes and problems.  You want to stop having things … Read more

I Want To Run Away

I feel I want to run away I want to get away I want to fly away – Lenny Kravitz There are certain threats that it is better to avoid than to engage with.  Faced with danger it is often … Read more

What does dissociation feel like?

Dissociation, what does it feel like? what does it mean? Dissociation refers to a separation or division that occurs in our experience of consciousness and on-going reality.  Dissociation refers to the sense of having moved from one state of awareness … Read more

Are you tired of being alone?

When we speak of feeling tired of being alone, what are we describing? How do you think about and understand your aloneness?  Is it something you have started to feel because of a change in circumstances? Is it an old … Read more