The value of a therapeutic relationship
Good friends are precious but you don’t always want to tell them everything. Often there are things we would like to speak about but feel put off by our personal relationships. This is why, in times of trouble or concern a therapeutic relationship is valuable. Your psychotherapist will not know your friends, and you won’t bump into them at your friends house. A therapeutic relationship is confidential. It may be better for your friendships too if you don’t feel you’ve told your friends too much. Better sometimes to be able to get something off your mind and leave it there, rather than worry about whether your friend will bring it up when you don’t want them too.
How a therapeutic relationship can help
It is remarkable how a confidential psychotherapy or counselling conversation helps to open up questions and worries that someone may have kept to themselves for years. Sometimes, in just a few sessions you see someone open up about themselves in a way that they apparently have not done before, or not in a very long time.
As they talk about themselves and subjects they have up to know worried about and kept concealed, they start to change. It is physical. They may start to breathe more deeply and easily, they may become more relaxed in their chair. Headaches and worries that have been bothering them for ages, and which have sometimes lead to problematic medical diagnoses start to dissolve as the therapeutic counselling sessions develop. People report that they are sleeping better, that bad dreams have stopped, that certain physical symptoms have lessened. They start to find a new perspective on themselves and their lives, and have a new energy for projects and ideas. And all of this happens because they took the opportunity to come for therapy or counselling. It is remarkable.
Often the reasons that drive us to seek psychotherapy and a therapeutic relationship are complicated. The problems that seem to repeatedly effect our lives and our relationships and our work are not simple. If it was simple we would have dealt with them long ago.
The challenge is how to find a way to get into the work of psychotherapy and counselling when our lives tend to follow patterns of us falling out of things like relationships or jobs? Once you have found a way into psychotherapy how do you stick with it and not repeat the well worn pattern of giving up on plans and withdrawing? Each time you withdraw you become more stuck in the experience of not finding a way out of them problem.
Working in a therapeutic relationship with me
My experience is in helping people find a way to engage with their problems. I work to help people change the things they want to change. Contact me for a free telephone consultation about how counselling Buckinghamshire can help you.